Kevin McLaughlin, MSC

Kevin McLaughlin, MSC

Hi, I’m Kevin!

I have a Masters of Science in Couple and Family Therapy from the University of Guelph, as well as an undergraduate degree in Psychology from Concordia University with a focus in neuroscience. I have experience working with individuals, couples, and families to create the change they want to see in their lives. I value authenticity, curiosity, a non-judgemental stance, warmth and compassion. All of these things are integral to the way I approach working with clients.

I believe in creating a safe space where people of all backgrounds are welcome. At our core, I believe all humans possess an intrinsic need to feel truly seen and heard, and I believe that we all deserve to have this need met. Unfortunately, many of us spend parts of our lives feeling isolated and disconnected. Sometimes this disconnect feels internal and can manifest as feeling like your life is not in line with your values or goals. Other times, this disconnect may be more about relationships with important people in your life. In either case, I believe there is a profound pain caused by the sense of isolation that comes with feeling invisible, devalued, disconnected or inauthentically connected to yourself or others. The driving force behind my passion for therapy has always been to strive to provide a space where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued. I work together with clients to capitalize on their inherent strengths and skills, and to cultivate greater feelings of connection, authenticity, curiosity, compassion, and mindfulness in their lives.

I approach therapy from a systemic, strengths-based, trauma-informed, anti-oppression, and mindfulness-based framework that fosters curiosity and compassion and resists shame. Among other things, this means that I believe the world around us deeply impacts who we are and how we orient ourselves. I strive to keep in mind the broader sociocultural context, the family and social systems each of us have in our lives, and how these systems interact with and impact each of our lived experiences. As we move through this world, we collect stories, informed by multiple sources, about who we are and what is possible for us. Some of these stories serve us, and some get in our way. I work to engage critically with my own and others’ taken-for-granted assumptions and the dominant social discourses that may serve to limit the potential solutions or changes available to clients. I work with clients to move away from stories that are limiting or destructive. Together, we explore new perspectives and use practical tools to focus on cultivating greater self-compassion and self-acceptance.

I work collaboratively with clients to identify their strengths, resources, and resilience, and to help them reduce and resist shame. I bring knowledge and expertise to the table in certain domains, but I know that clients are the experts of their own lives and experience, and I strive to honor and value this knowledge as we work together. I encourage and appreciate client feedback as I care deeply that clients feel supported as we work to create the changes they are seeking.

My work is informed by various evidence-based therapeutic modalities, including Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy, Family Systems Therapy, and Internal Family Systems Therapy. I integrate mindfulness-based techniques across these modalities. I also have additional training in attachment-based and trauma-informed practice, working from an anti-oppression framework, as well as sex therapy.

I have experience working with a broad range of issues, including:

  • Building feelings of connection, intimacy, and authenticity

  • Improving communication and reducing conflict

  • Navigating couple separation and divorce, as well as other family and life transitions

  • Navigating parent-child conflict

  • Self-harm, suicidal ideation, trauma, grief, anxiety, anger, depression, bullying, coming out issues, parenting, repartnered families, self-esteem,  self-acceptance, intimacy and sexuality, aging parents, chronic illness, shame, and guilt

  • I have worked with a wide range of clients of varying ages, diverse backgrounds, sexual orientations and gender identities, and family/relational configurations

  • I am passionate about serving the LGBTQI2SA+ community

In addition to my passion for therapy, I love hiking, scuba-diving, and anything else that gets me out in nature. I also enjoy travelling, time with my family and friends, spicy food, and music.